Misunderstanding Porn

by Matthew Loftus

How can we stop men from looking at porn?

There is a growing group of online provocateurs who claim that porn would cease to be a problem if more wives lost weight and turned themselves into their husband’s own “personal porn star.” (I wish I was kidding.)

This assumes that every man is walking around with some sort of horniness quotient that can be fulfilled through orgasm, much like every human requires 1500-2000 calories per day to survive. Just as one can get those calories through a grande frappuccino or a dinner of beans and rice, so people seem to assume that one can have this quotient satisfied through some kind of sexual activity.

This “horniness quotient” hypothesis (let’s call it HQ for short) is untrue. While the redpill influencers represent this view taken to its extreme, their misunderstanding is found more broadly. As deep and powerful as a person’s sexual desires are, no one will die if they are denied sexual release. A husband whose wife gets a terrible stomach virus on…